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i am not a female, but i am having problems with the thing s you all are talking about. i feel clingy and needy and i think i need to be around my wife at all times. it got so bad, that she is sleeping in another room, for the time being. she says that she just needs some time and it wont be for a long time. she wants me to change my behavior. she said once i can show her that i have changed, she will return. we still talk during the day, but i catch my self trying to hug and kiss her to much. there are days that i do not try those things and things are better and she doesn’t mind it. i just went to the doctor and am on medicine and she agreed for me to takemedicine. i love her so much and willing to do anything for her. i am desperate for some advice to help me ust let her be her on person. we have been married for 8 years and this all started 3 weeks ago. yes i started makeing her feel smotherd. i changed jobs and before, i was gone when she woke up and she would call me on her way to work some times and then i would not see her until she got home after her work. PLEASE COULD ANYONE GIVE ME some advice?

please i am desperate for some advice, it is killing me.

That’s a difficult situation, and I’m sorry you’re going through it.

You posted this about a week and a half ago - have things gotten any better?

You already know what the problem is, and that’s good. You should be thankful that your wife communicated that to you instead of holding it in and eventually erupting. Now you need to respect her wishes, and give her some space.

It would help if you got some hobbies and things to do on your own, so your wife isn’t the center of your universe. You need to be your own person, and not rely on anyone else for entertainment or attention.

Evaluate exactly why you feel the need to be around her at all times. Is it because you’re jealous and don’t trust her and want to keep an eye on her? Is it because you get stressed out and need her to make you feel better? If you can pinpoint the reason, it will be easier to correct it.

Good luck.

I agree. I’ve had similar problems with my boyfriend. I had to sit him down and tell him that I just needed a bit of space! I’ve started a few new hobbies, which means I can get out of the house and then I look forward to coming home to see him. Maybe if you try and get yourself into a gym or something? You could go there or play golf for a day and then you would both look forward to seeing each other more when you got home. Good luck!

have you ever thought of why you suddenly feel clingy? i think there are serious issues within yourself that you need to thresh out also. you need the space to so you can figure out what you really want and need at this point. it is good that your wife is giving it to you.

please hang in there. i’m sure you will figure things out soon.

Hon, you need to realize that you may lose your hold on something that you’ve been gripping far too tight. Don’t worry about losing your wife, she’s married to you! Loosen up a bit and go to the gym or to the greens or whatever you guys do to relax.

I think it’s natural to feel quite clingy when you first get into a relationship with someone, I’m wondering if perhaps you feel like you are going to lose her if you give her some space?

I think that is the key to making a relationship work, You both need your own space now and again to chill out and relax.

I think you need to realise that deep down she’s not going to leave you and if you feel that way then I think you need to address why u feel like that?

She’s married to you, She’s committed to spending her life with you so you’ve got no reason to feel like she’s going to leave or for you to feel like you need to be with her all the time.