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Is it just me or is a Pregnancy Scare the scariest thing if you are not expecting it?

I have had twot over the past few years and It felt like my world was going to crumble down because I am only young and also my parents would...well...lets not even go there! lol.

Thank heavens that it was just a scare!

phew!

To me it is scary. When I am ready for it okay, but right now it’s the thing I nearly fear most. Just not the right time. I had such a moment only once, I didn’t think about pregnancy at all, but then the period didn’t come, was incredibly late etc., needed to make an appointment with the gynaecologist - another week of horror to wait. I did 2 pregnancy tests to keep me calm, but heard of cases it didn’t work and the girl was pregnant in the end. My gynaecologist said those tests from the drug store are rubbish anyway -.- so she checked and all. Turned out I wasn’t pregnant.. am not? Whatever it’s not so long ago…
So anyway it’s very scary, I agree.
I don’t really care what my parents would think about me being pregnant, not their life. But maybe my mum would be quite delighted, I already announced to hear that I want children at some point and her face just brightened up. :D

yep your not wrong, it is isnt it. Children really arent for me at all, ive tried to change my way of thinking and ive tried to want one if thats possible, but its not natrual for me, im missing that particualr instinct so yes i have to say i am VERY careful with my pill , ive only had one scare and that was when i was younger and the condom had split, i was down the docs quicker than my legs could take me for the morning after pill i can tell you!.Having said all that, years ago the sinareo was on par with death for me!, now such a sinareo doesnt seem quite so bad but not a route taken by free choice. I take it you have had a scare hun?X

yeah, I have. And its not that I don’t want children, but not right now. About 3 years ago I had one when I was very naive with the whole concept and well, lets just say I’ve learned my lesson from it. But I had one last year when I changed the dates of my pill and I thought...oh no...And then because my emotions have been all over the place I thought I was having another scare. But I’m not. its been confirmed. So there is a huge weight off from my shoulders.

The thing is, my parents are SO conservative, they don’t even know my OH and I are sharing a room. So, if I had to tell them I’m pregnant before I’m married, well, I would feel awful. I know they would support me, but I know the effect it will have on them. I am the youngest of all of my sisters too (4 girls we are).

But. Thank God I’m not pregnant at the moment!

your parents sound like mine, i certainly never had the ‘birds & the bee’s’ chat from them, luckily i had my head screwed on anyway!.

But if you want children some day, im sure alot of people will tell you “theres never a right time”,theres usually always something going on in your life and plans to be carried out, it wouldnt be the end of the world for you, might make things more challenging perhaps but just be ultra careful!x

Thanks Cat,
I suppose that is true, I mean you can’t calculate exactly! But its so frightening when it does happen, or you think it has. Especially at the age my OH and I am at the moment. I know there are many ‘youngsters’ with children but we want to finish our studies first and have time for ‘us’ first too. But like you say, there is never a ‘right time’. But I can definitely postpone it. Gosh, I’m going to be so careful now.

yep your not wrong, it is isnt it. Children really arent for me at all, ive tried to change my way of thinking and ive tried to want one if thats possible, but its not natrual for me, im missing that particular instinct so yes i have to say i am VERY careful with my pill , ive only had one scare and that was when i was younger and the condom had split, i was down the docs quicker than my legs could take me for the morning after pill i can tell you!

This is exactly how I feel to the letter about children the scariest thing about it all was my oh’s reaction of how desperately he wanted the scare to be a reality. I don’t think you can make yourself want a child if your not ready for it.

Thats not to say in the future I may not change my mind…

After having as few pregnancy scares recently I can really sympathies how scary an experience this is. Its true there is never a right time and I am really with you about postponing it as I feel kinda new out of uni, my career has only just began to pick up and I certainly don’t want to get tied down just yet.

This has happened to me 4 times in my life so far I am just so careful I drive my OH crazy.

kezflake - 25 Jun 2009 04:15 PM

This has happened to me 4 times in my life so far I am just so careful I drive my OH crazy.

I’m the same. I’m so paranoid, its funny my OH seems like he hasn’t had ‘any’ for like months if I’m being cautious. But Luckily I know that he supports me in that.

But your right Kerry, I’m just out of uni, I’m just about to start my life and I thought when I was younger that 26 would be the age I want to have children, but that is only 5 years away for me now, and I don’t think I want children at that age anymore. I’d aim for late 20’s for sure. But then again, things might change. But I’m just not ready at the moment. I look on the street and it seems like there are loads of young girls that have children.

The other day I saw what seemed like a 17 year old and I though...what a difficult life ahead, it can be done, but its difficult. Being forced to mature so quickly.

At the moment I am pleased just being with my OH and building my future now.

I’m the same. I’m so paranoid, its funny my OH seems like he hasn’t had ‘any’ for like months if I’m being cautious. But Luckily I know that he supports me in that.

But your right Kerry, I’m just out of uni, I’m just about to start my life and I thought when I was younger that 26 would be the age I want to have children,

I have always said 25 the trouble is that’s now only next month .

You are right that there seems to be many young women or girls even seen about who have family’s of there own and some seem so happy. Sometime I wish I could be like that I know my OH would be happy to start a family any time but he is early 30. When i am being cautious this dose make it a little difficult to refuse as he says what the heck lets just do it and have a baby!

kezflake - 25 Jun 2009 04:45 PM

When i am being cautious this dose make it a little difficult to refuse as he says what the heck lets just do it and have a baby!

Lol - this seems so typically men. The end of the day they aren’t the person who has to grow a baby for 9 months! lol. As much as I think its an amazing process. It scares me to bits! Don’t let me get on to the birthing process! lmao.

But yeah...I think I’ll know when the time is right. At the moment I feel like I want to wait first. Have fun with my OH, go on fun holidays.

exactly its so easy for men, they don’t have to give up life as they knew it their body’s , their health even or their careers. Not saying life is exactly the same for men but its a much more life changing experience for a woman IMO.

kezflake - 25 Jun 2009 06:00 PM

exactly its so easy for men, they don’t have to give up life as they knew it their body’s , their health even or their careers. Not saying life is exactly the same for men but its a much more life changing experience for a woman IMO.

Uhuh, I agree. Like you say, its a change for both, but I think it has a bigger impact on the woman, emotionally and physically.

Haha. I think I got the wrong kind of pregnancy scare before I had my first one. When I turned thirty and still had no signs of a baby bump after three years of marriage, I was SCARED. but then i had my firstborn within the same year. On a side note, you may be on the dot when you say there’s no right age to become a parent as at 31 i felt like a thirteen year old left with a bawling baby.

Just had another one, I have taken a test which came back negative, phew (i think)! Was worried by the feeling of constant nausea over the past few weeks especially in the morning. I think that would be the worst thing about actually being pregnant!

Periods seem to be bouncing about all over the place just lately too.