Female Forum

I’ve been reading an interesting article, about women who take a sabbatical from their marriage. The idea is, to take anything from 6 months to a year away from each other. This could involve simply taking a holiday, or maybe just having time out to do something you’ve always wanted to do. For example, volunteering to help out in poorer countries.

The idea of this break, is that the time spent apart will help you appreciate each other more when you see each other again. You are always going to come back to each other at the end.

Of course there is always the danger that by having so much time apart, it could have the opposite effect. You might find that you cherish your new found freedom so much, you don’t want to go back to your husband or partner.


Is this something that you would ever consider in your relationship? Do you think it’s a good idea? Of course if you have children, this will make such an idea almost impossible. But if you don’t, maybe it could be the way to save your relationship if things have gone a bit stale. What do you think?

I didn’t go anywhere OH did ...for nearly 5 years!
His father was very ill and OH went to London to be with him (he thought for the last few months) and help my SIL with the day to day nursing tasks..

As he realised it was going to be longer than we first thought OH got a job there and came home once a month or every 6 weeks for a long weekend..
we did phone each other and exchange texts every day though..

Because our time together was so limited. I made sure on the weekend he was home I had done all the shopping and cleaned the house, done all the laundry ect before he arrived that way it was our time, no distractions…
Because of that we didnt get bogged down in talking about triva and bills or household stuff, we just enjoyed each others company and the sex was fantastic.. definitely a case of absence making the heart grow fonder..

I wouldnt recommend it as a choice but in our case we made the effort and our relationship grew stronger because of it..

I think this can work for some people - and if that’s the case, then it’s a good thing.

I do have a suspicion that if a year apart from your life partner doesn’t affect you in any way, perhaps you shouldn’t still be together! In that regard, I guess it’s a good ‘test’ for the relationship.