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OK - I need all you girl’s verdicts on this.

My OH has never held a good relationship with his mobile phone. He’s never up to date on them, never uses one that much and when he does it’s only for calls and the odd text. This annoys me because he is 23 at the end of the day, I’d like him to have the perks of a Blackberry - plus it would be hell of a lot easier and quicker to contact him. But still this is no excuse - he has a phone there so he is able to pick it up and reply to a text.

What I’m getting @ is this is starting to annoy me. Not alot, but on the odd occasion when he goes out with his mates after work - doing whatever, I don’t really care… he will text me around 9.30 telling me he will be ‘home soon...’ I think ‘home soon’ in my books is what, 30 minutes max? So last night I waited till 11 and NOTHING. So I called him and he didn’t answer. I text him and the same. So I just closed the evening off as ‘Running overtime are we? Forget it. I have work early so I can’t spend all night waiting for you to get in touch with me. It takes the piss H. Goodnight.’

He text me this morning with the excuse of, ‘I had just got into bed when you sent me that text. I was about to call you and thought NO why should I, she’s only going to want to have a go @ me...’

SO as you can imagine I said things along the lines of ‘well understand where I’m coming from… there would be a war path if I was out till 10.30 every night, shit @ texting back and only picked my phone up when I fancied...’ I know he’s not cheating on me because (LOL) I’ve actually followed him in my friend’s cars a while back a few times… all he’s doing is hanging out @ a friends and being a little boy on the PS3… He’s apologised to me and said he just gets lost with time and 1 minute playing poole / ps3 turns to 3hours etc.  He said he hates rowing with me and that it makes him upset.  I agreed and have just asked him 2 respect my wishes and if he says something, to actually stick to it.

So girls (and guys) can I have your views… do you think I’m just pestering him too much and I have to give him his own space and let him come to me (so to speak)?

Thank you x

P.S i’ve made it out as we’re like a long term couple LIVING together.  This is not what I mean lol!  He means when he’s back @ home to phone me.x

Oh jess I wish Id never taught mine how to use a mobile!

He texts me 10 times a day which can be nice kisses I love you ect but it gets a bit tiring sometimes, because he expects a reply to all of them and sometimes Im working, driving or walking 3 dogs so its impossible..

But he also disapears off for hours on end when he says hes just going for 5 minutes.. ‘One beer’ can last til 4am!
Just like you ive also told mine that he wouldnt like it if I stayed out half the night getting drunk. He calls if Im not in from work by 4.15 ..’ i wondered where you were’ ‘ i was worried’ are his usual excuses.

I do think men have a different concept of time than us women as you say home soon means 30 mins or a hour at the outside...to us…

To them its like home soon means within a day!

Ive learned to just let him get on with it.
Hes over 50 now and he still cant tell time female style. I dont think theres any hope of him learning now.

Mine is SOMETIMES like that.  I think he’s more of a pest without the mobile.  Meaning, when we’re face to face.  He will be the one telling me he loves me umpteen times a day; cuddling me, wanting to hold my hand… but not @ an overwhelming rate, which I suppose is nice.

I’ve caught myself ringing him 17 times in a row without him answering… until he texts me an hour later saying ‘Just looked @ my phone; 17 missed CALLS?! Are you OK? What’s wrong...’ Then I feel like a complete fruitloop.

I wish it was sometimes (to give him a taste of his own medicine), but it’s just not in my nature to be out galavanting till midnight every night.  I wouldn’t be able to face work every day if I’m honest!  I’m only 20 but I feel like my heavy drinking and partying is in a way, coming to a close… I know his has - it did before I even met him.  I know what he’s doing is harmless just having a joint and sitting there high for hours, ploughing through hundreds of levels of Call of Duty… boys and toys…

I would love to spend the rest of my life with him so this is exactly what my Mum said too - just let him get on with it / get over it, or if you can’t and it grinds on you that much, leave him.

I guess once we’ve got a house together and start to actually settle down then he won’t be doing this as such (she says lol).  He did say ‘as if I will be out till 11 pm every night… i’d be worrying that I left you in the house on your own Jess...’ Meh.

Thanks though Cassie - I’m not alone… we will get through this ha ha

3rd paragraph I meant to put “I wish i was like this sometimes...” god I’m terrible today!

Glamourjess, you can go back into your posts and edit them.  Pretty please, try and avoid four letter words, it is something I find a little upsetting, but I know you probably don’t mean it that way.

Do you think your boyfriend is playing hard to get?  He maybe fine with his mobile, but just ignores it when he is out, and it might not be just you who is getting this treatment.  Also some people, and I’m one of them, only checks the mobile 2-3 times a day unless it rings, and then it is often on silent, whoops!

Sorry - I’m such a cockney! Blame London… Martin has told me off and swear words fall out my mouth as easily as fall onto a keyboard… I will read over posts in future and try think of words more suitable, lol?

LOL he isn’t that clever. He’s never really played hard to get now I think about it? We’ve always want “things” and eachother @ the same time, so in a ‘on the same level’ kinda sense, we are cool?

Maybe you’re right.  Maybe he’s a dumb idiot who is away with the fairies whilst out?  I’ve tried calling him off other phones before, friend’s phones, and still he hasn’t answered nor has he even rung back / text those numbers 2 see who it was…

Perhaps I’m just looking way too into this and maybe it’s I that needs to put the “crackberry” down and take a step back from modern technology....... :-|

No problems!  It would be lovely if you could do a quick double check for the naughty words.  Don’t worry, I may sound like a prude, but people who know me and hear me, would tell you otherwise.  I just get uneasy hearing or reading some words if I don’t know the people involved face to face.  That may sound a little odd, but that is just my little personality quirk.