Female Forum

I think this one really has to be thought about, when we talk about predjudices I think we all immediately thing of people of colour, dont ask me i dont know if thats the right expression to use I actually like to think I’m not predjudice but over the years have had occasions when I have questioned that.  My eldest came home with a boy she was seeing who was of african origin, the night i came home from being out they were both sitting in the kitchen.  mum this is ........ she declared and immediately my hackles went up.  I was mortified, was I really predjudiced? all these years of clearly, and confidently saying I wasnt? when all the while i was? However, my lass and this lad didnt go out for long, and one day I passed him in the city centre, he nodded a hello and as I walked past it dawned on me, it was him I didnt like, not his colour but him as a person.

predjudices come in many forms, be it a name (when thinking of names for my then unborn child,the name Ben came up and my husband said, no!!! definately not Ben I had an uncle Ben and he was an absolute B!!) be it size, be it colour of a persons hair.  take red headed people? why is it that its a joke ? being called ginge and other names?

so , what are your predjudices if you have any, think carefully before you answer tho

You know what, I think most of us would have thought you were talking about race as soon as we saw the thread title. The fact is even though we dont all like to admit it may of us have prejudices from the serious (like race) to the less substantial like names for our children. You make an interesting point that although many of us like to think we arent prejudiced we often are but they only raise their heads when we are confronted by them. I am glad you realised that your dislike for your daughters boyfriend was based on his personlity not his colour, but how would we react if in the same situation? Its a difficult subject and one that is definitely worth of more thought.

We all have prejudices whether we like to admit it or not. We form opinions about people within a few seconds of meeting someone and in that time frame it is impossible to really know them. We judge people on the silliest things too - how they look, what they sound like, how they move etc.

We need to recognise that we have prejudices before we can try to overcome them.