Female Forum

one of my past relationships showed me just what an insecure person I am, I found myself more and more questioning some of the stuff he did? was he being faithful? was he where he says he was? etc etc

i have always been a little insecure I think we all are to a certain extent,and we all know how difficult possessive jealous people can be, and yet I have been laughing about this with a friend of mine who also admits to the insecurities, its just mine seem to be more prevelant these days.  Of course i realise trust is a huge and absolutely necessary in a partnership and I usually ended up finding out my ‘imagined’ scenarios were ridiculously wayyyyyyyy off key , i dont voice the insecurities tho thank goodness , i didnt go wading in accusing him of all sorts.

How do you deal with your insecurities and have you ever had a relationship where the other persons, or your insecurities have broken up the relationship or generally made life difficult?

You have raised an interesting issue gemini. I think we all feel a little insecure from time to time, even when we are in supposedly secure relationships. Every now and then I feel a little insecure but I find talking to my husband helps rather than bottling it up and the feeling getting worse. Of course if you cant even talk to your partner about feeling insecure then maybe there is something behind your worries and they arent unfounded.

I feel secure in my relationship right now (I am engaged) but every now and then I wonder what would happen if he left me or if we broke up for whatever reason and the thought is very worrying. My fiance hasnt done anything to make me feel insecure in our relationship so right now I am in a good place. I am hoping this wont change!