I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 22. We’ve been together now for 8 months, and we’re both committed to our relationship and very serious about it. There is a problem though, and perhaps I’m letting it get to me, but I need some help with this.
I’m a full time student in College, and he works full time and has odd hours. I still live at home, and so am expected to respect my parent’s rules/hours of being out. Here’s the problem. We don’t get to see each other that often… typically, when I don’t have school, he has work. And when he’s off, I’m in class or studying for an exam.
However, when we both have time off, we don’t see each other… Most of the time it’s because he’s already got plans with some of his buddies. I’ll admit, every now and then, I already have something to do, but that has only happened a handful of times. He often has “other plans”.
We both love each other, and the time I’m with him I wouldn’t trade for the world; and neither would he. It’s just frustrating, and I’m not sure what to do at this point. Do I just shrug it off, and stop worrying so much? Or is this something to be concerned about? He’s never mysterious (if you will) about what he’s doing or where he’s at. It just bothers me knowing that he’d make plans with other people before making plans with me.
And don’t get me wrong. I’m not one of those “you can never hang out with other people” kind of girlfriends. I’d just like to see him more often than 2-3 times a week.
Thanks for any suggestions you ladies have. It’s greatly appreciated!