I am a married 40 year old professional with a home, working full time for the last 8 years. I have no family where I live other than my husband. On the weekends I am teaching myself to play mandolin, I cycle and snowboard, and do glass artwork. Turning 40 has stirred something in me making me want change, to go back to earlier days when I travelled and had spontaneous adventures. There is a growing worry that I will move deeper into what I have coined “The Fold”, the place where I no longer make any changes. Part of me thinks that since I do fun things in my spare time and have stability, why should I want change? It would be nice though to feel more alive and awake to life’s unpredictable and daring side, to meet new people and try new things. I can’t think of a first step, or otherwise I talk myself out of ideas. I have stability many would be happy to have and I am truly grateful for my life. It can feel like a rut though. Does anyone else ever feel this way?
I look forward to your thoughts or ideas of what you have done to spice up life, stay faithful to your spouse, and still pay the bills.