Hello,

I am a married 40 year old professional with a home, working full time for the last 8 years. I have no family where I live other than my husband. On the weekends I am teaching myself to play mandolin, I cycle and snowboard, and do glass artwork. Turning 40 has stirred something in me making me want change, to go back to earlier days when I travelled and had spontaneous adventures. There is a growing worry that I will move deeper into what I have coined “The Fold”, the place where I no longer make any changes. Part of me thinks that since I do fun things in my spare time and have stability, why should I want change? It would be nice though to feel more alive and awake to life’s unpredictable and daring side, to meet new people and try new things. I can’t think of a first step, or otherwise I talk myself out of ideas. I have stability many would be happy to have and I am truly grateful for my life. It can feel like a rut though. Does anyone else ever feel this way?

I look forward to your thoughts or ideas of what you have done to spice up life, stay faithful to your spouse, and still pay the bills.

Ms. BoofontBlue

 
  Welcome Ms. Boofontblue  

  This is a real good start for you to make….The Female Forum.

  Alot of really wonderful ladies who are super ready to suggest and make things really great for you.

  Just wait till you get to talk to Ms. LadyCaz, she is the best and has a million good ideas.

  By the way, I am i of just maybe 2 men allowed on this site.  Martin is the moderator and I hang

  around if any ladies need a man’s point of view.  Martin is the best and I try now and than.

  I promise to NEVER belittle any comments and always consider all woman as the ultimate people

  and am always VERY respectful to ALL OF YOU.  I’m VERY SORRY, I missed the best man of all, Mr. Jim.

  Good luck and have fun.

Hi there…

Good thought provoking intro…...

I suppose Ive found that responsibility has dragged me into routine, I cant just take off places because who would take care of the house, animals, pay the bills ect..

Plus I must admit to being a little fussier about where I sleep and eat than I used to be so no camping in the car!

But I have to say being in one place to long stifles me, I like to move I dont want roots…Stuck in one house with one set of friends..Too claustrophobic!

I hope you find some refreshing ideas or tips from the ladies here..

Hi there… welcome. Interesting intro Boofontblue Unfortunately I have nothing to offer though. On the occasions I have perhaps felt this way, I have expressed my thoughts to hubby and together we have found a way to change or do things which ultimately gives us both spontaneous joy, a touch of adventure, etc so it never really takes root! We regularly spend an hour or so daily discussing, planning, and I guess one could say,  conjuring up things we can do within the boundaries of responsibility, etc to ensure we remian in a ‘good’ place.

Welcome and you can always make changes it is just they differ with age, as for you as a couple oooh give me 30 pages on how to spice it up and I will give you something to be getting on with, I am 46 he is 55, 29yrs and still have neighbours complaining and have sucessfully manage to get our revenge on the kids my making them disgusted hehehe I see it as it doesn’t matter what you do in the bedroom as long as you don’t do it in the street and frighten the horses. Enjoy life and don’t let others bring you down because they are too boring, the ladies here are great and I enjoy coming on here, so look at life this way.
Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it is so much better and fun to be ridiculous than boring.

‘Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it is so much better and fun to be ridiculous than boring’

I am so with you on this, particularly the latter… I guess ‘ridiculous’ should be my second name! No matter how old we are, why do we have to conform to society and behave and/or act our age! I may not be youthful in my appearance, but dear lord never let my attitude or frame of mind be in agreement. That child,  young girl still lives inside of me

I love these two quote:

“You are young once, but you can stay immature indefinitely”.

“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and lives of people you love.  When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.”

Welcome Ms BoofontBlue!

I’m a tad late, but wanted to say hello anyway. I’m relatively new here, but already feel a part of something bigger than myself. I hope you find that here as well.
Unfortunately I can’t offer you much in the way of advice for your current situation (being a stay at home mother of 2, spontenaiety is kind of a thing of the past) but can guarantee that someone on here will have some great advice to help you. Hope to see you around the place.

Ja, would also enjoy seeing you around BB.. . where you girlie lol

Welcome to the community and thanks for the great introduction! We have members here from all different backgrounds and with all different interests, so I am sure you’ll fit right in!