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How to deal with Stress in a healthy way?

Posted: 14 Mar 2017 04:39 PM   Ignore ]  
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I’ve been hit with a lot the last few months and even though I don’t think im stressed my body is telling another story.  In January my little sister (17 yrs old) was diagnosed with cancer, it has caused a lot of tension with the family. And my go-to to relieve my stress is “FOOD”.  Ill exercise for a little and then I give up and rather be lazy.  And Im so not happy with how I look or feel anymore.

Should I make an appointment with my PCP and discuss this with them?  And the grays whoa have they shown up! Im really not sure if this is something that is medical or if I found a healthier outlet I can resolve this on my own? any pointers?

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I’m so sorry to hear about your sister. Sending lots of hugs.

I’d see a doctor although I am always nervous to go that route myself because I am not always willing to open up to a stranger. Do you think something is holding you back from going?

Perhaps, it is not wanting to be treated with medication you mentioned before? How about trying a holistic doctor. It could be a vitamin deficiency that is making you feel lathargic or a number of other things but always best to try a trained professional like you said.

When I was pregnant I was always worried about taking drugs to treat back pain and any of the other not so wonderful parts about being pregnant. I found an accupunturist who also used massage she was a holistic doctor so many years or training and experience. I’d go in feeling awful and come out feeling a lot better. She asked a lot of questions about how I ate to activities I did during the day. I didn’t feel pressured that I was going to answer the question wrongly or that she will write me a prescription for something I didn’t want to take.

I go through phases of being lazy and unhealthy you are not alone. I hope you feel better soon.

Where in the world are you? I live in Oregon USA.

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We meet again Kiwi smile Im in Colorado.

Its felt like this on again off again battle the last few months, I have this want to do better but not drive. I saw my PCP before about it and the put me on this medication that would help with weight loss and if I kept feeling the way I did I could have blood work done. Thats why Doctors make me super iffy.

I just wish I could break this vicious cycle.

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Bean8630 - 14 Mar 2017 04:39 PM

I’ve been hit with a lot the last few months and even though I don’t think im stressed my body is telling another story.  In January my little sister (17 yrs old) was diagnosed with cancer, it has caused a lot of tension with the family. And my go-to to relieve my stress is “FOOD”.  Ill exercise for a little and then I give up and rather be lazy.  And Im so not happy with how I look or feel anymore.

Should I make an appointment with my PCP and discuss this with them?  And the grays whoa have they shown up! Im really not sure if this is something that is medical or if I found a healthier outlet I can resolve this on my own? any pointers?

I am so sorry to hear about your sister. I hope she is in the early stage and all will work out well with her.
Food is always the easiest therapy so I can see what you have been through. Definitely you need to get help and the PCP might be where to start.

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I’m a big believer in eating healthy as our natural medicine but that can only go so far if there is an unbalanced. Might be caused from high stress, depression, anxiety etc.

Maybe ask around locally to get a recommendation for another practitioner who won’t just quickly write a prescription or look up a holistic doctor?

Our winters can wear us all down here in Oregon from the lack of sunshine so it might be worth making sure you are getting enough vitamin D.

I’ve just started adding nutritional yeast (loaded with vitamin B can help with feeling lethargic) to my food. I use it instead of cheese and it’s not bad!

Lastly, I find that sometimes it helps to have a buddy, someone to work out with or meet up with for walks. I can lack motivation to do it on my own but when teamed up with a friend to make a plan, I HAVE to do it!

How are things lately with your family?

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I’m sorry to hear things aren’t going too well! I hope things workout with your sister.

I spent some time myself with rapid rising stress and various family health issues around me. It is difficult to break out but I think I have moved quite a way. As yet I have not managed to shift all the put on weight but I find that my morning exercise which I do between making and eating my breakfast has really helped.I have a pretty set routine and tell myself that it WILL help and does not take long (25 minutes). I put it together. No following this or that latest fad, just work!  It has made me feel fitter and improved my circulation such that my skin looks visibly better (fewer blemishes). On top of that, I have a very varied diet with lots of fruit, veg, seeds, herbs and spices. I do eat meat but far less than I used to, and very little fast food.

Kiwi’s idea of a buddy is really good , as will take your mind off things as well as help with ideas and exercise.

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During the days, sometime I feel stressful so I would pick one of the conference rooms, turn off the light, spread out a little yoga mat and lay down on my back with my legs up against the wall.  Close your eyes and stay in that position for 10-15 minutes.

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I am sorry to hear about your sister. You’ve been given such great advice already but I release stress by going out walking. I especially love walking out at night, often in the summer.

Anyhow, talking to your doctor is something that will benefit in the long run. But I do know how you feel: I have had a million blood tests over the years and it doesn’t get any more fun. But I do so because it is worth the discomfort. I don’t mean to sound condescending, but it is true.

I hope things get better for you and your sister and your family.

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I think a hot bath is also a good way to release your stress. Fill the tub with hot water, with your favorite book, or music and your favorite drink. It works for me.

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I have always been a big believer in exercise for stress, sometimes I think it might be the uninterrupted “me” time you get, but it does always make me feel better.

Lately I have been practicing some yoga poses and forcing myself to slowly breathe through them, they seem to work wonders!

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talktime - 22 Mar 2017 05:31 PM

I have always been a big believer in exercise for stress, sometimes I think it might be the uninterrupted “me” time you get, but it does always make me feel better.

Lately I have been practicing some yoga poses and forcing myself to slowly breathe through them, they seem to work wonders!

That sounds like fun! I used to do a Pilates video at home that I really enjoy but would be interested in learning some regular Pilate poses. Any advice like do you use a website or YouTube?

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annelee - 16 Mar 2017 09:53 PM

I think a hot bath is also a good way to release your stress. Fill the tub with hot water, with your favorite book, or music and your favorite drink. It works for me.

That sounds lovely Annie, I am intrigued what do you drink in the bath? Wine wink that would be my favorite drink for the bath! ha!

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Comfort food is good in a short-term emergency type thing, but ultimately comfort eating 24/7 is going to make things worse.

I wouldn’t advocate alcohol myself, but I’ve had alcohol dependency problems so I’m hyper-aware of the risks involved.

Personally, I’d plump for exercise. Find a sport or activity that works for you. Something you find fun, or gives you peace, or a sense of achievement (or all three!). You’ll know it when you hit it.  For me it was walking and hiking. I have a friend who trampolines. Whatever floats your boat smile

Music is also a huge stress relief. Making, listening and especially singing. Doesn’t matter if you sound terrible (I’m deaf so I’m aware with what little sound I have that I’m awful!) it’s the sense of release that comes with singing that’s important. It’s also an excellent way to release the root chakra (red one at the base of your spine) which is locked by fear. It deals with kidney energy, with fear and stress and instinctual patterns. If you’re constantly feeling stressed and harried, it’s a good bet that your root needs releasing.

I’m so sorry about your sister. How is she holding up? She must be absolutely terrified :(

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I’m soo sorry to hear about your sister being diagnosed with cancer and especially at her age as well.  In which I have to say that its becoming the norm more and more.  I for one have 1st hand knowledge about that because I used to work at the local cancer center via local hospital system.  Kept seeing it happening over and again.  I mean not at first, but more during my last couple of yrs there.  This also applies to older ones as well.  Of course I still solve it and beyond.  At the same time did lose both my mother and one of my next door neighbors’ cancer battles, and lives.

At the same time I’m in totally agreement with what the others said to you.  In which I also highly recommend beyond both of you start doing you own learning and researching on it as well.  To me I found its very important so you can be proactive in it.  Also, please take everything with a grain of sat as well.  Especially, pseudoscience part of it as well.  This also applies to beyond as well.

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kiwi - 22 Mar 2017 11:30 PM
annelee - 16 Mar 2017 09:53 PM

I think a hot bath is also a good way to release your stress. Fill the tub with hot water, with your favorite book, or music and your favorite drink. It works for me.

That sounds lovely Annie, I am intrigued what do you drink in the bath? Wine wink that would be my favorite drink for the bath! ha!

Hi Kiwi,  there is a cheap 4% alcohol wine called Sparkletini that I got from World import, it comes in 4 flavors: apple, peach, strawberry and raspberry. It’s about $5 per bottle but it is delicious smile

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It’s interesting that you worked at the local cancer centre via a hospital, Jessica A B. Can I ask, did you find it a stressful job? Or did you enjoy helping the patients? Or both? My colleague became ill with breast cancer. Thankfully Carol recovered but she suffered hair loss, which must’ve been devastating. Cancer seems more and more common these days. Thankfully, the recovery rates are high. There is so much research going into it. I do hope everyone can survive cancer if it’s found early enough.

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