Parenting

A Look at Parental Grief: How to Comfort Parents Who Have Lost a Child

Parental grief is the most devastating form of grief. It is true that when a child dies, parents often wish they could follow close behind. That’s because part of the parent dies with the child. While bereaved parents must learn how to manage and overcome their pain, it does stay with them. Parental grief is a contradiction. There is no way to manage it other than to go through it — yet there truly is no exit. The trauma of parental grief Parental grief is very traumatic, no matter the age of the child or the cause of death. The impact of the child’s death stays with parents for the remainder of their lives. Not only do the parents have to grieve the loss of the child, but they also have to grieve the dreams, hopes, and wishes they had for their child. They will also have to grieve t...

How to Instill Family Values to Make Your Family Happier and Stronger

As a parent it is easy to assume that our job is primarily to tell our kids what they can do and what they cannot do. Yet, the job of a parent goes well beyond just displaying a corrective nature when those types of situations arise. Our job as parents also includes instilling truths and values that we hold dear into our children. What are family values? Every family unit needs guiding principles or family values. These values will be different for each family, as each family is different. However, whatever the truths and values are that you want to teach, they will more likely take hold and stick if they are grounded in the following: Feelings of belonging and loyalty A feeling of belonging should be at the core of every family. No matter what, individuals in a family should feel they are...

A Guide to Setting Boundaries With Your Teen

The teenage years can be difficult on both parents and teenagers. Teens are ready to display their independence, yet they are still dependent on their parents. While teens may act like they can handle things, they are still developing their identities and having boundaries in place is necessary. Boundaries give structure and provide safety. They also help guide teens along the right paths as they progress into adulthood. How to set boundaries with your teen Talk to your teen about the boundaries you are setting and tell them the reasons for each one. Teens are more likely to stay within their boundaries if they understand why they are in place. Be open to your teen’s viewpoint and input. Negotiate on things that you feel are open for negotiation. Stay firm on things you do not feel are ope...

10 Things to Think About When Making a Birth Plan

If you are expecting a baby, the chances are high that the labor and delivery experience is consistently on your mind. No doubt you generally know what type of birthing experience you want to have and you’ve voiced it to your doctors. Yet, instead of just voicing your wishes to your health care providers, you should take it a step further and write up a birth plan. What is a birth plan? A birth plan is a tangible list of the decisions you have made regarding the birth of your baby. Making out a birth plan will ensure that your wishes are very clear and that everyone that is assisting you with your pregnancy, labor and delivery is on the same page. Giving your doctor(s) a birth plan enables him/her to take the time to look it over and discuss with you any concerns or suggestions that he/she...

What to Do When You Lose Your Libido After Having a Baby

Do you remember a time when it didn’t matter where you were or what day of the week it was that you are your partner couldn’t keep your hands off of each other? Does the thought of sex never cross your mind now? Does the thought of having sex seem like another thing to add to the to-do list, does it feel like work? If so, your libido has dropped. Take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. Many women in early motherhood report that their libido crashes to an all time low. Why new mothers lose their sex drive The list of the reasons why a mother with a young child doesn’t have a robust libido is long—from hormones to health conditions to juggling life in many different roles, to lack of emotional support, a drop in body image, lack of time and energy, weight gain, and more. Yet, there ...