Affect of Pornography In a Relationship

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  • #7859

    Hello All

    I just want to get a survey response on these questions.

    If you knew your partner watched pornography – would this turn you off or turn you on.

    If you knew that you were the only woman your partner thought about and made you feel like the only woman he thought about – would this turn you on – or turn you off.

    Look for as many responses as possible, you may think its a no-brainer but im interested in the comments,

    If you would like to elaborate further feel free.

    #36232

    I am married have been for 30 years .
    My husband has always watched porn. His prefrence is just plain old bums and boobs.

    It doesn’t do anything for me and I mostly leave him to watch on his own..
    I cant stand the lassie noises and fake boobs.

    I am the only real woman in my husbands life he tells me he loves me on a daily basis.
    I trust him and understand that his porn is simply a visual relaxation . Much as other men might watch an action movie or play a video game.

    I think the effect of porn is dependant on the type of porn , the reaction to it , acting out dressing up ect, and the openness with which its done.

    #36238

    I am exactly the same as cass bar the point I like to watch it both with him and on my own. Not very much turns me off but plenty turns me on. Come on if you doing this survey stop testing with the mild stuff and get down to the meaty bits.

    #36248

    Well there is porn and there is porn…. hubby and i used to watch together occasionally (talking a good few years back) – I suppose it would be viewed as the “mild”version of porn and ja, of course it turned us on. Quite honestly we haven’t bothered for years now, well as far as i know that is …. not something i focus on or even question him about as to whether he is and/or isn’t. 😆

    #47341

    What about porn that you make with her? Actually I don’t think I’d want to watch that.. I’ve never been married, but with boyfriends; at some level I feel like I’m not doing my job well enough, if he has to watch porn. Even if that’s not the reason, I still feel it at least a little.

    So to answer your questions: 1. No; 2. No, that sounds fake-romantic.

    #47352

    I do look at some porn and my wife would NEVER look at it. (OH my heavens!!!!! she would say.) Brought up Catholic.

    I do look at some porn and my wife knows it and she also knows that SHE IS MY WOMAN and thats all there is to it.

    I will admit that there is one secret woman, but she lives a long way from me, so my wife has no problem with her.

    Porn….how about your man watching sports every minute of every day….say hi to him and he says shhhhhhh!!!! We have friends like this….if she tries to say ONE WORD…HE SHISHES HER. My wife would pull the plug out and thats the way it would stay for however long she desires.

    Is the porn the worst??? what about the guy that spends most every free minute at the bar????

    Oh well, the porn is bad and if you are serious about it, talk to him. (unplug the TV first)

    Lots of Luck

    #47356

    SHE IS MY WOMAN

    Best feeling in the world 🙂

    #47357

    SHE IS MY WOMAN

    Best feeling in the world 🙂

    Oh and how I agree…. I think the knowledge of “ownership” – “you are mine” for both parties is a turn-on in itself lol

    I must be honest, I don’t think at this stage of our lives, I would be happy with Franco watching porn – yes we all fantasise, but I would hope he is totally fulfilled and content in what we share together without having to view porn.

    Different strokes for different folks – as i said in my earlier post yes, it was a positive in many aspects, but now…. no.

    #47411

    No to porn… Definitely a turn-off and libido wrecker for me.

    Yes to being his one and only… Though to qualify, of course he has activities and hobbies external to our relationship… He just doesn’t have other naked ladies. I think specialness is hot.

    #47504

    I hate the fact, even the thought, that my boyfriend would watch porn. I understand it is something that guys “feel the need to do” because they are visual people but when I know that he is watching porn it makes me feel like I’m not enough for him and then I get down on myself. I’ve expressed this to him on multiple occasions and he just doesn’t get it. As far as I know, he doesn’t watch porn anymore and even if he did, I wouldn’t want to know because it would upset me greatly.

    And I’m assuming after reading my above response, you would guess that I don’t watch porn with him… the thought of him looking at another woman and then being turned on does not turn me on. I’ll constantly be wondering if I turned him on or if some fake bimbo turned him on…. all in all, porn = badness to me

    #47534

    I can understand that sentiment ahobe.

    I wonder how many women actually watch porn (of their own accord)!!

    #47733

    Anonymous

    I think it will have some effects at the beginning of your love with your lover,she may think you are nausea. But if you get married, you may have to accept this concept, or to watch together, to enjoy the sexual life.

    #57542

    MSW

    I hate the fact, even the thought, that my boyfriend would watch porn. I understand it is something that guys “feel the need to do” because they are visual people but when I know that he is watching porn it makes me feel like I’m not enough for him and then I get down on myself. I’ve expressed this to him on multiple occasions and he just doesn’t get it. As far as I know, he doesn’t watch porn anymore and even if he did, I wouldn’t want to know because it would upset me greatly.

    And I’m assuming after reading my above response, you would guess that I don’t watch porn with him… the thought of him looking at another woman and then being turned on does not turn me on. I’ll constantly be wondering if I turned him on or if some fake bimbo turned him on…. all in all, porn = badness to me

    I completely agree here with you and shy and a few select others.

    I am not okay with whomever I’m with watching and being turned on by other women. I was also brought up Catholic but I don’t believe that means much these days at least. .. as I know enough people who have also been and still do the, what others would reckon as “inappropriate things..” porn, of course being one of them.

    I understand wanting to explore your intimacy and sexuality with your loved one.. but why do you need to view others??

    Figure it out on your own. Do what you are both comfortable with and share that.

    I believe this topic is extremely controversial.

    I’ve known men who watched and never understood the harm or negative impact it’d have on his partner in crime.. but when I’d ask how they’d feel if they found out his partner was watching porn of well endowed men or super jacked up men doing the dirty making her extremely turned on, ALL of them seemed to have an issue.

    Call it whatever you want, but the thought alone that this person is watching and fantasizing and dreaming about another man/woman is enough to make any self proclaimed person insecure (even if you only just admit partially).

    And that has a high tendency to drive you mad when ypu start feeling insecure about what you can offer or aren’t offering, why you can’t be enough, whether they envision someone else when you’re intimate etc. The list of this horror story is never ending.

    But I am open to understanding that there are different strokes for different folks.. However for myself. It doesn’t fly. Period. You can’t let it up then don’t. But I won’t be there to deal with it.

    I’m a model.. trust me when I say I understand how some of my past bfs get worked up about the gigs I get and have to turn down bc they get upset about me possibly being an image to another man “jacking off”.

    I understand that and am mindful with the jobs I take.
    The same, I think applies to porn.

    What woman wants to have her man jacking off to another image of a woman??

    Idk.

    That’s my take.

    For the record. ..

    My gf (no longer in touch).. was in a committed relationship with her bf.. to be engaged actually.

    She’d done modeling but ended up going down another route and into soft porn. Her beau broke it off and she fell hard.

    As a man. I get his perspective. . Who really wants his woman doing all that and being seen by the world? ?

    But on that exact train of thought… if you know it’s that bad… why are you watching it then??? How is that okay? ?

    I’m getting too heated on this topic.. so ill seal it here for now.

    (Pardon any typos or whatever.

    I am:

    A) too lazy to proofread before submitting and;
    B) godzilla with giant polish sausage fingers that have about a 0% accuracy rate for typing legibly, consistently)

    That is all.

    YUP.

    MSW

    I also see there’s a Check Spelling button. .. but ain’t nobody got time for that shieeeet!! Lol

    #57543

    Porn = fantasy.

    Me = reality

    What is there to worry about?

    #57549

    MSW

    Different strokes for different folks, at the end of the day, I suppose, cherrystone. 😉

    I was merely sharing my take that was similar to some others on here hahaha

    I know this is a controversial topic to which I’d say it just doesn’t work for me.

    That’s all 😉

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