CIS womens view on transgender mtf women?

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  • #195511

    As a transgender MTF woman, I am just wondering how CIS women views us. This is not a “war” question. I am just curious as I am just starting to come out and will soon start HRT hormon treatment. I am aware of different male views of us transgender women.

    So how do you girls here view a transgender woman? Are we men in womens bodies, hybrids, women? Please share your thought from a CIS woman perspective whatever they are.

    I am asking this just to prepare myself when coming out to the public. So your answers will be helpful to me to prepare myself for whatever I will encounter out there.

    Hugs,

    Anna

    #195521

    I think our views are varied much in the same way as men’s. The differences tend to be in perception and approach to things, and views will vary so you will likely not get a definitive answer. Personally I have not met any transgender people, as far as I know, but I have no worries, and am happy as people live as they are inside. I have never been an activist in any way and, although understanding those who are, don’t really go for anyone amost forcing themselves on the world (please don’t think I am talking about you here, as I am not, just people who force their rights).  I would be happy, as long as you are a honest caring person, and would not expect you to divulge your ‘transgenderism’ unless it was to get yourself out of a situation, or in a relationship or close friendship in which it would cause major embarrassment. For instance – You have been open in who you are here. As far as I am concerned you are another woman and need not worry about being different.  There may be others who think differently, but being open and friendly will find you accepted and new friends.

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    #195553

    I would say that individuals including those that are transgender, know themselves and who they are better than what someone else may think of them. But since you are asking my opinion, to simply put it, to me Anna you are a woman. Unfortunately, I know there are people in this world who would have much different opinions, but those people aren’t the ones who matter. I apologize if this sounds cheesy in any way, but honestly just be true to yourself and good things will come. You do you, and if someone doesn’t agree with that then they aren’t worth your time and aren’t worth worrying over. Focus on the people who support you. ♥

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    #195567

    Thank you girls! It feels great to be here 🙂

    Anna

    #195575

    i have femme guys and butch girls as friends and treat them equally with my straight friends. i dated a butch girl with a man tool for quite a while and treated her as my boyfriend in public and private. same sex marriage is legal everywhere in taiwan. gays and lesbian are treated well here by most people here

    #195588

    Hello Anna!  I’m so glad you’re feeling welcome so far. 🙂

    I have several transgender women friends, I feel as comfortable around them as I do with other women and I don’t view them as men.  I have one friend who is younger than me, and she’s just starting her transition, she just came out to her parents a few weeks ago.  I’m very glad to be supportive of her, and I feel very special how she’s been looking up to me and she’s really been appreciating my emotional support with what she’s going through.  If you ever need to talk please do, in my experience so far everyone here’s absolutely lovely and we’ll be with you.

    One thing I do struggle with sometimes with some of my (older) transgender friends is when she forgets her life experiences aren’t the same as mine, I do feel there’s a difference growing up a man as there is growing up a woman.  As a girl you’re bombarded with sexist expectations from when you’re born, and you can’t just understand that without having experienced it.  I do feel cisgender women will support transgender women, and love transgender women supporting us, but I just do recommend remembering our perspectives won’t be 100% the same, like you’ll have struggles I’ll never truly understand, and I also have life experiences you won’t completely understand either, you know what I mean?  Oh dear I do hope I’m not coming across wrong here.

    Welcome to Female Forum, oh I do look forward to talking to you more. 🙂

    #195613

    Thank you all again! I love the replies!

    #195709

    All people have a right to be here: whether transgender or anything else. At the end of the day, a person has to be happy with who they are. And if they feel male or female, they have the right to change for themselves. What others think should have little relevance. Of course, that’s easy to say, but all are different, all are great. And regardless of gender, a person has a right to be happy.

    Don’t let the haters drag you down.

    #195713

    Well I can tell you all that transgendering  is the biggest undertaking in life. Nothing else demand the sacrifice, the perservance, the dedication, and the endurance of a lifetime of trying and failing to be accepted. Those of us who made it successfully are just a small part of those who try and do not achieve a favorable outcome. My heart goes out to them.

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    #196606

    You’re asking, so I’m telling. You’re a man and all the surgery in the world will never make you a woman. You will never experience being a woman. I find the whole thing very weird and odd.

    #196608

    For me its easy. You are who you perceive yourself to be and who you present yourself to me as..

    As long as you are an honest and kind person ( I dont mean about your birth gender just generally) I dont give a flying fig about what you do, dont, or used to have under your clothes.

    Anyone looking back over my old posts might be able to see that I did foster a transgender child once.

    It was difficult because we had zero support from anyone finacially or emotionally but I am proud and happy to say that my foster daughter is a stunning , happy, young woman who has a good job, loads of friends and is in a loving relationship.

     

    You only have one life  as long as you dont hurt anyone live it the way you want to and make the most of it.

     

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    #196637

    You’re asking, so I’m telling. You’re a man and all the surgery in the world will never make you a woman. You will never experience being a woman. I find the whole thing very weird and odd.

    Forgive me for playing ‘Devil’s Advocate’ here, but how would you view someone who is intersex? Ok, transexual people have made a choice of sorts, but intersex people are between the devil and the deep blue sea and are being unfairly treated by people’s unfeeling attitudes.

    https://www.intersexequality.com/how-common-is-intersex-in-humans/

    My view is that we should live and respect each other. I agree with Cassandra on this one.

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    #196644

    You’re asking, so I’m telling. You’re a man and all the surgery in the world will never make you a woman. You will never experience being a woman. I find the whole thing very weird and odd.

    Forgive me for playing ‘Devil’s Advocate’ here, but how would you view someone who is intersex? Ok, transexual people have made a choice of sorts, but intersex people are between the devil and the deep blue sea and are being unfairly treated by people’s unfeeling attitudes.

    https://www.intersexequality.com/how-common-is-intersex-in-humans/

    My view is that we should live and respect each other. I agree with Cassandra on this one.

    Not sure where you live,  but the subject of intersex was recently touched apon in quite a gentle and non confrontational way in the BBC medical series Hobly city..  It wasnt a long storyline but it at least highlighted the fact that such a condition exsists and that people who are intersex are not freaks, not dangerous or weird they are just people trying to live their lives and cope with the day to day stuff like the rest of us.

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    #196677

    I don’t watch Holby City, so missed it, but with work I came across people with all manner of conditions which didn’t help with living in society.

    #196683

    Being accepted into society for a transgendered person, is, unfortunately, largely based on how well you pass in your chosen gender. If you stand out, you will be the subject of ridicule, rejection and even worse. If you can pass well, then you will be largely accepted- and women will be the most charitable- as witness these remarks on ff. I know that’s a hard truth to accept, but this comes from someone who has lived through this. So Anna, you have to ask yourself where you stand on ‘passability”.

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