November 17, 2019 at 9:32 am #205355
And realize your inner value. Other people are not always better looking or more intelligent. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Basically learning to love oneself is the only way.December 9, 2019 at 10:09 am #205889
i have also had isues with my body and the way i look for years. i think its pretty common for lots of women and i am no different. i also have to confess to posting suggestive/sexy photos on certain sites, and after initially having doubts found that i liked the comments i was receiving. it did feel empowering knowing that (at my age) was still able to appear attractive to the opposite sex. not sure if others feel or have done similar?December 9, 2019 at 1:54 pm #205902
I havent posted anything of myself but a student my son knew via collage wanted models for his art work he needed people of every age and background weight height etc to pose naked ..
I was 40 at the time and thought if I dont do it now I never will.. It was art not porn and I got copies of the photos, one of which I had enlarged on canvas and it hangs on my bedroom wall..December 9, 2019 at 2:05 pm #205905
[quote quote=205902]I havent posted anything of myself but a student my son knew via collage wanted models for his art work he needed people of every age and background weight height etc to pose naked ..
I was 40 at the time and thought if I dont do it now I never will.. It was art not porn and I got copies of the photos, one of which I had enlarged on canvas and it hangs on my bedroom wall..
i think thats amazing, it’s something i don’t think i would have the confidence to doDecember 10, 2019 at 8:04 am #205925
I don’t think it likely I would pose naked either but, being more into painting, I think more of that than photography. When I was in school I did pose, clothed, for the rest of the class to draw. It’s rather boring just sitting in a similar position for a long time. Good experience which I don’t regret but to do so naked? That said I am flirty at times so it’s not unlikely that I could get very suggestive but not nude.December 11, 2019 at 12:59 pm #205958
I wouldn’t pose nude myself, either. But – that being said – it can be a way to celebrate one’s body and show off the model’s assets. I do also think it can be uplifting to see the real human body: real women have lumps and bumps and photography disguises them and makes the models appear false. Because NO ONE looks like a photograph in real life. Not unless they’ve spent hours and hours preening themselves. And who has the time at 8 in the morning when the kids have to be driven to school? Again, no one looks like a photo in real life.
There are ways to feel good about yourself: you could write a body image journal and could praise other women for their fabulous new shoes or their qualification. That type of thing.
And: NEVER insult yourself or put yourself down. Learn to love yourself and your body.April 17, 2020 at 6:57 pm #210349
I thought I’d bump up this thread:
How are you preparing yourselves for summer? Are you painting your toenails? Switching to lighter footwear? Just generally preening yourself? I am doing all these things. Although I’d advise anyone just stick to their own style, clothes-wise. I have my dresses to wear and the suchlike. Plus, I’m looking forward to wearing my summer shoes.
Over to you!April 17, 2020 at 9:43 pm #210364
Hi Kitty, funny you should say painting your toenails, as after quite a gap I decided to do mine and love wearing sandals to show them off. I have bought some tea dresses to wear this Summer for those lovely evening walks to the local pub, assuming it opens again.April 18, 2020 at 7:27 am #210391
Its still a bit cold and frosty here but I have been looking through my shoe collection and found two pairs of brand new summer shoes Id forgotten I bought at the sale last year. Sadly both in the smae colour but different styles so I dont have to rush off and buy summer shoes.
Before the crisis hit I had already bought two summer dresses both a bit boho style one is a cold shoulder type, Im determined to wear more dresses this year! Got to get out of my dog walking uniform.
I have continued all winter with my foot regime soaking and rubbing with cream daily and my feet are quite nice (for me).
If and when the summer comes I wont be ashamed of my feet!April 18, 2020 at 8:33 am #210397
At the moment I am not doing anything too positive but am steadily losing weight and do take care of my skin so will be looking better when the time comes. I think it may be more the case of nice things for walking rather than on the beach as it may go on a bit. The main thing is to make the best of any situation.April 19, 2020 at 5:10 pm #210446
A new series of how to look good naked has just started on TLC. I think it’s a great show for exposing just how so many people ( wrongly)feel bad about their bodies and it gives us all a little bit of encouragement to say we can do this we can look good be proud of ourselves the way we really are.
April 20, 2020 at 2:07 pm #210494
- This reply was modified 1 year, 9 months ago by cassandra.
Self acceptance is very important. If we can accept ourselves, others will accept us and we will be much happier in our lives. Learning to love oneself is the goal. Because we can’t swap places with someone else: we can only ever face ourself in the mirror.
And no one is going to make our dreams come true for us: no one is going to knock on our home door and give us what we want. Because the world doesn’t work that way. No: we have to accept who we are – both physically and emotionally – and not blame others for our lot or what we don’t have. Self acceptance is the key to everything in life.April 25, 2020 at 10:10 am #210700
Self acceptance doesn’t mean accepting your lot in life and not trying. It is like taking responsibility doesn’t mean blaming yourself for every problem in your life. For instance, if someone is nasty, that isn’t your fault. A lot of people do confuse the terms of taking responsibility and self acceptance with blaming themselves and accepting they’ll never have their dreams come true.
For instance, I accept I’ll never take Mariah Carey’s place BUT I can write poetry instead. I can take responsibility by realizing if I insult everyone, no one will like me. BUT that doesn’t mean I blame myself for others being needlessly nasty. Common sense will help here.
Just to be clear about what I meant!April 29, 2020 at 7:38 am #210888
I am glad my comments were listened to. Because when it comes to advice, it can easily be misinterpreted. I do try to be clear and concise and not give out false advice. Accuracy is very important.
I do also hope my advice helps anyone out. Because – in this life – we only have ourself. We can’t swap places with Mariah Carey or Madonna. We can’t be president. We can’t be a rock star: we can only be ourselves. And learning to love ourselves – like I do – is key to living a busier, happier life. I do also think we could all use female support in difficult times.April 29, 2020 at 2:47 pm #210901
There is a trend on social media at the moment to post a photo of yourself, any photo, but just to say this is me this is how I am and Im proud of me..
In that trend I can say this is me.. Wife, mother, grandmother, carrying the extra kilos and the grey hair no make up and yet still confident and proud of who I am..
Who will join me..?
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