• FlamingosAreAwesome posted an update 8 months, 1 week ago

    I have a question for you guys. I’m not trying to make political statements, that’s not what this is about and besides, I’m new here and I don’t want you guys to dislike me because we disagree on some policy or another.

    Here is my situation: I hate hate hate that the COVID vaccine has been politicized. And no one, on either side of the aisle, can honestly say it hasn’t been. I’m not interested in discussing who is to blame for it, because regardless of where you fall on the political spectrum, it’s bad to politicize health care decisions. It’s a very slippery slope, any reasonable person can see that.
    I have some deeply held principles. I’m a Texan, and an American. I know neither of those distinctions is popular.
    My company offered an incentive to take the vaccine. I had always planned to get it. I don’t think the vaccine itself is problematic, and despite claims that there are “breakthrough” infections, it’s clearly apparent from the statistics that people who have not yet had Covid don’t get as sick (if they get sick at all) if they take the vaccine. But then, they mandated it.
    Regardless of what you think of the vaccine, no company I’ve worked for in 20 years has required me to take a vaccine as a condition of employment, as that is clearly a violation of someone’s personal autonomy. Two things can be true at once: it’s a good idea to get the vaccine, it’s bad to mandate it because it’s a slippery slope that leads, honestly, to companies requiring employees maintain a specific BMI (inarguably good for health, but a violation of their rights).
    My company did this, and my inclination was to quit, not because I don’t think the vaccine is a good idea, but because I’m an adult, capable of making my own decisions AND, most importantly, there are people with natural immunity who don’t need the vaccine because they already have antibodies and for them getting the vaccine is an act of virtue signaling and political teamsmanship.
    My husband insists this is a temporary requirement until the firestorm passes. Our health insurance is through my company. He has heart disease and we’re about to get my son checked for the same disease. We need the insurance, we need the money, and on a selfish note, I like my job otherwise.
    I’m going to cooperate with my company and provide them with my vaccination “social credit score.” Because we need my job and because, as my husband says, “You were going to do it anyway, refusing to supply the proof at this point is a political, virtue signalling (yes, conservatives do that too) and it’s stupid.
    I’m doing this because my husband wants me to. I’m doing it for him, and for my son. I’m abandoning my principles for the good of my family. At least, that’s what I’m telling myself. But I’m clearly not sure.
    My question for you guys is, what would you do? Pretend it’s not about Covid and all that hysteria. Would you violate a personal principle for the good of your family? And if so, does that mean you are setting a bad example for your child by compromising your principle?

    To close, I’m getting my second shot in a couple of weeks. I’ll turn everything in because there’s a cash incentive. In so doing, I’m complying with an edict I do not believe in.

    I’m struggling. I realize I’m looking for validation for my decision. But please, be brutally honest. Does violating your principles for the good of your family make you a good parent/spouse, or does it make you a hypocrite?

    Give it to me. Say it. I wouldn’t have asked for opinions if I didn’t want them. If I’ve made you mad, tell me so. I want to know what you think.