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September 9, 2019 at 7:42 pm #203677
I have my own style too, I wear things I just like.
During the summer, I like knit capris and jean shorts, with crew neck tees or sleeveless tops. I also like pencil skirts, but I prefer stretchy ones that still let me move. I pretty much only wear sandals during warm months (it’s a lot hotter here than England!), so I try to choose things that go with that.
I find my style gets more “me” in fall and winter. I like wearing oversized sweaters with leggings and boots. I have a number of sweater-dresses that sort of go down about the same length as a miniskirt, and I’m very fond of cowl neck styles.
I love, love anything cold shoulder, and I’ve got quite a few sweaters like this. I enjoy colors such as cream, emerald, lavender, plum, peony, etc. I normally don’t like prints. I’m also quite fond of cardigans I can just throw on over anything.
I have quite a few knit a-line midi skirts that go with almost anything. I like heels, but I’m not into stilettos or anything; just a couple inches is fine. I have a few pairs of boots that have block heels, and I have several wedge sandals (some I really love for date-night)September 5, 2019 at 7:33 pm #203587
Those dating ones are awful … another one people do is get you to fall in love with them, then they need $2000 to fly over to come be with you. It’s a total scam. Definitely never give your money to someone you don’t know, unless it’s a small amount. I’ve given a few hundred here or there to people I felt really needed help.
For those lottery ones and such, did you know they deliberately write those with such poor English to screen out anyone with even half a brain? They don’t want to waste their time with smart people who will eventually catch on, so they only want the dumbest of the dumb.
Beware also those tax scams … someone calling or emailing you about how you owe money, and if you don’t pay then you’ll go to jail!
One of the biggest red flags is when they create a sense of urgency … for one reason or another, you’ve gotta pay or send money right now. If they don’t want to let you have time to think about it, then something’s almost certainly wrong.August 14, 2019 at 3:55 pm #203157
I love just a clear polish on my finger nails, over a base coat. I love how they look so shiny, but also feel stronger and smoother, and just look cleaner too.
I looove this feeling of lip-plumping gloss (getting that wonderful tingling in my lips right now!)August 13, 2019 at 7:40 pm #203128
I’m recently married and right now I’m still on my honeymoon high.
I feel I’m generally happy … I enjoy my life, and I’m glad to have money and to own my own house. I’m glad I look young and pretty, I like trying out new fashion. I really enjoy baking and listening to music, and I’m glad to have my freedom and my independence.
I’ve had trauma in my life, and I’m suffering from post traumatic stress disorder … I’m taking Zoloft and I’m seeing a therapist, which is helping me deal with my issues. I haven’t had suicidal thoughts for quite a while now, so yay! 🙂
It’s also been a very long time since I’ve heard from either my ex-boyfriend or my stalker, so that’s helping my nerves too, lol!August 13, 2019 at 7:36 pm #203126
Cassandra, it sounds like you need to use a nice fabric softener!
I’ve always used a dryer, but mine is gas powered instead of electric, and it works really well. I’ve never worried about leaving my house while it’s running, that sounds strange to me, lol!
I do at least one load of laundry every day, for clothes and towels (I don’t like using disposables, so I have napkins, hand towels, handkerchiefs, etc) I wash my bedding every weekend.August 13, 2019 at 7:33 pm #203125
I hate social media, people are so horrible on there. I don’t participate with any of those things, because I get hurt really easily and don’t do well with being yelled at.August 13, 2019 at 7:28 pm #203124
I play the Sims frequently.August 13, 2019 at 7:25 pm #203123
I’m so sorry for your pain Lake District, I hope your doctor’s able to find out what’s causing it and can get it fixed for you. Oh dear, you really need to wait months for an ultrasound?? 🙁August 13, 2019 at 7:23 pm #203122
Ugh, I’ve met so many men who call pessimism “realism” … I don’t know why, but I feel the male species is very cynical by nature but they like to try rationalizing everything. Men are highly emotional and irrational, but like to think they’re governed by logic, and tend to put down people who look at things in a happy way. I’ve been called “naive” so many times myself.
I don’t think it matters what he thinks … he’s entitled to be miserable if he wishes to be. You do you, and I’m glad you’re able to look at things in a positive way and keep your optimism. Please don’t let him transfer his issues to you and bring you down.
I really relate to a lot of things you’ve said, and I feel for myself therapy is helping quite a lot. If you can find a good therapist, you might find a lot of benefit from talking to someone. Meditation helps too, if you can find a group you feel comfortable with then you can certainly get peace there too (I really enjoy yoga)August 13, 2019 at 7:15 pm #203120
Oh dear Cassandra, I’m so sorry your neighbors are so inconsiderate!
I’m a very fussy sleeper, things have to be perfect. I can’t have any imperfections in my mattress, and my sheets have to be just right. I need it to be cool (thank goodness for central air conditioning!), and I can’t have any lights on. I also have to have my ceiling fan going, because I need air flow, and I also have to use a breathe right nasal strip. I’ve got to have water close by, and I can’t have anything touching me in certain spots (like the small of my back) I also can’t have any artificial sounds, like a clock ticking … I use a white noise sound machine so I can block out everything.
I love having my husband (and I love using that word!) in bed with me, but he snores, so I have to keep waking him and asking him to turn over. He isn’t so bad when he’s facing away from me, but he keeps rolling onto his back which is just the worst.
I like using a sunrise simulator lamp to wake up, it’s really wonderful!
I also dream very vividly, but my dreams are usually crazy. I get those ones too where I can’t tell if it’s real or not, and sometimes I wake up totally confused where I am! Last night I dreamt that my husband put all sorts of crazy things in the dishwasher, and I woke up totally convinced it really happened! I used to get abduction dreams a lot, but I haven’t had those in a while now.
I sleep with just panties in the summer … I’m too terrified of spotting and ruining my bed. I’ve had random spotting even when not on my period.August 13, 2019 at 7:04 pm #203119
I’m sorry you had a fight with your sister Kitty … but I must admit I’m terribly confused, lol! Why was your using the washing machine such a horrible thing? I feel like I’m missing something 🙁
I hate time, I feel like I’m a slave to the clock. I don’t want to have to do things at certain times or in a certain order, I’d like to be able to set things by how I’m feeling at a given moment. Right now it’s 3pm and I don’t feel like working, so I’m here posting. I feel stressed by things so much because I have to be at a certain place at a certain time, and I often have things conflicting.August 13, 2019 at 6:57 pm #203117
I hate working, I’d love to quit. But my job is comfortable and I make good money, and it’s mostly easy for me so I keep doing it, lol. I could probably quit now that I’m married and we’d get by, but I get paid a very good salary and I just wouldn’t want to give that up. I get to work from home at least, and I really only work like 10-15 hours a week most weeks (sometimes less), so I’ll keep plugging along.
I probably don’t enjoy work too much because I’m not doing something that fits with my personality. I just work with numbers for a huge corporation, I’d much rather be helping people, like if I could do it all over again I’d become a psychologist. I just don’t feel my soul is satisfied I guess, lol!
I do my work well, I don’t do my projects with substandard effort or anything like that. If they wanted to make me have to go back to an office for 40 hours a week, I’d probably quit. I deal with a lot of sexism at work, sometimes it’s soul-crushing.
I do feel proud telling people I’m a bank vice president though! It’s just my title that makes me feel good, not what I actually do, lol.August 13, 2019 at 6:49 pm #203116
I believe in God, as in I believe God created the universe and is part of us, and that our mortal lives aren’t the totality of our existence. My personal belief is that the universe is God and is self aware and eternal, and there’s only one consciousness energy and each of us is like a leaf on a single tree.
I don’t believe in supernatural presence though, like that interact with our lives. I guess I just feel there’s too much conflict with science, in that like with how energy, mass, and force works and everything, that you have to have something to exert force on something to make change, you can’t just have something non-existent altering our world, if I’m making sense? I don’t believe God “helps” people by curing illnesses or helping you get a job or something.
I don’t believe in jinxes, like I remember once long ago coworkers would freak out if I talked about how it wasn’t very busy, as if like me saying that would somehow send waves out to other people and make them change their day and decide to come to our business instead of doing something else … I just can’t wrap my head around that, I feel like to believe that, I’d have to think I’m the center of the universe or something, you know what I mean?
I do love things like horoscopes, tarot, palmistry, and so on … but only for fun. I’d never, ever base any of my decision making on those.
Oh something that gets me into a lot of trouble with my science fiction friends, is I don’t believe alien life exists. I just feel I’m sort of agnostic about it I guess, like I wouldn’t deny if there’s proof, I just don’t think it’s at all very likely that there’s another planet out there capable of supporting life, and I don’t believe we’ll ever travel out of our solar system.June 23, 2019 at 10:14 pm #202108
Men don’t want to work cooperatively with us, they want to dominate us, and part of that is constantly trying to say we’re weak. So we’ve got to show strength, because we’ve got to fight for our place of equality, men won’t just hand it to us. They’re going to fight us every step of the way, so right now we’re in a position where we’ve got to recognize how strong we are.
Men, as a group, have caused so much suffering for so many people in our world. They’ve taken power by force and don’t want to give it up.
1 member liked this post:June 19, 2019 at 3:46 pm #202005
I’m constantly criticized by men I know for how I approach my job at work.
I’ll gladly help other coworkers with things, especially getting something set up that makes their jobs easier. I want everyone in my group to succeed. I’ve had male “friends” tell me this is a weakness of mine, how I’m being taken advantage of by other people, and that I need to let them fail and work on my own individual accomplishments, so I can promote myself and get raises and promotions.
I really find it interesting, how men view things as like dog-eat-dog, and are more interested in appearance than substance. I’ve seen men trying to take credit for my work (and even get promoted for it), and that’s not something I’m willing to do, I’m not going to be like that. I don’t view success as proverbially knifing my way to the top and then cutting loose before the ship sinks … I feel success is more about doing my part to make sure our voyage goes well and everyone makes it through okay.
I don’t feel that makes me weaker, I feel the opposite really.